If you want to kiss his neck, then you’ll need to get in line.
Just kidding, please behave.
I’ve heard that constructive criticism is really only potentially constructive if it’s about something that somebody can actually change or do something about. If not, then it’s just criticism.
I think constructive criticism can even sometimes manage to be constructive when it comes from somebody we don’t like, but it’s better when the one offering it is in a compassionate frame of mind.
I’m feeling kind of gentle right now, so I’d like to offer him some constructive criticism.
I noticed the lines in his neck are deep for someone his age. I think he hasn’t been wearing sunblock regularly. Of course genetics play a role too, but sunblock is known to help prevent lines.
It might sound like I’m picking on him, but I wasn’t looking for it, they sort of jumped out at me. I’m older than him, but his neck looks older than mine.
I’m not in perfect condition and he likely thinks I’m hideous, but I’ve made some effort in some areas over the years.
I was raised poor and lived way out in the country, and I spent a lot of time outdoors without sunscreen because my parents only bought it if we were going to spend time at a pool or at the beach. So yes I’m not a model who has aged backwards. But I think I’d look worse if I hadn’t been wearing sunblock since I was a young adult.
He is beautiful and his neck is beautiful, and maybe he doesn’t care about lines and that’s fine. I wonder though if he does, but he thought that there wasn’t anything he could do about it.
If he cares, I suggest he look into getting sunblock and applying it regularly. If he’s consistent, it’s possible his neck will improve or not get worse as he ages.
It can be challenging to find the right products. I have sensitive skin and it took several fails before I finally found Eucerin Age Defense Lightweight Sunscreen for my face with SPF 50. It actually doesn’t bother my skin or my eyes and seems to protect from the sun. I’m not saying that’s the exact sunscreen he needs, just that he might have to try a few to find the one that works best for him personally. It can be annoying, but it’s worth it.
There are also products that can help repair skin. Many women love Tretinoin, but my skin didn’t appreciate it. I don’t have any prescription products like that at the moment, but I do use Lather products and I bought Medik8 Crystal Retinal 3 and use that too. I alternate it with Alpha Skincare Enhanced Renewal Cream. There are more expensive and potentially better skincare products out there besides what I can afford to use that my skin will tolerate, and he has plenty of various skincare products to choose from if he’s so inclined.
I hope this comes across in the spirit that it’s intended.
He might have made me his enemy, but I offer this constructive criticism as a friend.