You know I’m finally beginning to wonder if the energy in our therapy sessions was coming only from me. It wouldn’t be the first time that I’ve been lively and excited and have made the mistake of thinking that the boring stick of a dude who is in the room with me is somehow contributing to that energy.
Is Aaron Gleaves boring? He’s popular with the office ladies, who generally prefer for their day to day male coworkers and husbands to be dirt boring and their lovers to be passionate and exciting. In other words, you can’t really tell how boring he is by the company he keeps. It’s in his best professional interest as a man in a boring career to seem boring. It tends to make people feel comfortable. It’s also possible of course that he acts boring because he genuinely is.
And yet, at every opportunity he’s chosen to go in the direction of more drama with me instead of less. An honest conversation about why he was really dumping me suddenly would’ve done wonders to prevent everything else that followed. But no, he chose to abandon and ignore and bully the girl who he knows has spent much of her life so far standing up to various bullies. Why would he take us on this path to more drama if he was basic and simple?
His tendency to choose drama and avoidance over honest, respectful communication, almost screams personality disorder or at least deep personality issues to me. I don’t want to figure him out as much as I want to know what the hell really happened back in my fucking therapy. He owes me that. He owes me to stop the silent treatment stonewalling withholding abusive bullshit that he’s doing and should tell me the truth. But drama kings like to dance around the truth.
Mr. Gleaves, I don’t believe you made an innocent mistake with me. Only insider knowledge from my sessions with you could’ve provided you with the info you needed to hurt me in just that way. A therapist using insider knowledge to harm a client seems quite insidious. If you aren’t malicious and are clueless, then I still don’t think you make for a safe therapist. Trust is an important element in therapy and when it came down to it, you behaved in an untrustworthy manner in my opinion, and to be clear, my opinion absolutely fucking matters, sir, especially where my therapy is concerned.
Mr. Gleaves, I don’t think I like you. You are still being mean and stonewalling is actually a form of emotional abuse. As a supposed therapist you should know that, or maybe the Radford abridged therapy courses don’t bother to mention details like that. Based on your lack of accountability, it seems there was a lot they didn’t cover.
In my opinion, if clients go to him, they should insist on meeting in person. I think they should choose someone who isn’t so reactive, but if they choose him, my advice is to be careful. I suggest they hold the big things back that can be used against them in case he gets upset or annoyed or whatever the hell he got with me.
Mr. Gleaves, you owe me better than this. You absolutely do.