The Therapist and I were friends. I’m in no way taking any blame for that and I’m not here to cast blame on him for it either.
First, I believe he tried to not be my friend. Second, I don’t believe it was my job to manage the status of our relationship while working on my actual therapy. I had a lot going on in my life.
I personally feel like making us enemies was extreme and unnecessary. It’s not like we were going to go out to lunch. We live over 3 hours away and while I’m not against driving to meet a friend, I’m not going to drive to meet a friend who is in denial or who is uncomfortable or who stops liking me or starts actively disliking me.
I expect I’ll remain confused about how why he ended things with me dramatically. It wasn’t what I was ever expecting at all which made it far worse to go through.
I believe I’d have to be singularly distressed and anxious to choose to give the message in a manner that communicates we can’t be together now go away! Instead of, this and this are the reasons I feel it’s better for us to stop meeting together. I’d have to be under extreme distress to use the first option instead of the second.
Whatever therapists reading here think of me, I’m not the drama queen who is going to blow up something into a full blown disaster if there’s a better way.
I can prove that I tried reaching out to the therapist before starting a blog. I also got the green light from another therapist.
So if you wish this annoying blog would stop, why not ask The Therapist why he has never tried a better way of stopping it? There have been a few peaceful solutions at every turn.
I have accepted that he decided at some point unbeknownst to me that we were enemies, and I was the last to know. I’m not sure why or how it came to this, but it’s possible he’s taking his cues from women instead of making his own decisions. Not that he would like me now, but declaring war on a client is rather disturbing.
Interestingly, as his enemy I still seem like I’m in the minority because I believe in his capabilities. I hate him, but I believe he can be smart and make smart decisions when he decides to.
As for the two of us now, well I have to be his enemy if he’s determined to be mine, because it wouldn’t exactly be safe for me to ignore an enemy like him, now would it?