I’ve decided that I think my ex-therapist is not a good person. It’s taken me a long time to accept what his actions have shown me, that he is an emotional bully and a fraud.
He is good at some things, everyone is good at something, but my ex-therapist is low quality for a therapist. He works at a place that seems professional and in some ways it is. They have a great admin and their scheduling and things like that are good quality. Perhaps some of their counselors are good quality, but my ex therapist is not.
I do not consider therapists with compassion deficits to be high quality, because I think a high level of compassion is required to be a good counselor.
A counselor with empathy and compassion would not be able to feel fine after hurting me like my ex-therapist did. His avoidant bullying behavior gives me Déjà vu from the times I’ve had to deal with addicts. They choose unhealthy behavior and have a dismaying lack of empathy.
I feel like my ex therapist is a poor choice. Clients, you can do better. Essentially what I want clients to know, is you don’t have to settle for a therapist like him who is fluff and looks without substance, because there are good counselors out there. He is superficially good, but he isn’t strong or reliable or respectful in the ways that matter the most.
I feel sad that I was scammed by a guy like him, but now I know. My therapists after him have all been higher quality. It’s like when you leave a crummy boyfriend and you can see clearly how lacking he was and how he doesn’t even meet the basic requirements that a boyfriend should meet.
I think my ex-therapist is a bad boyfriend version of a therapist, sure he looks good and can talk a good talk, but notice how when I needed to talk with him about a problem or issue that involved his behavior, he hurt me and abandoned me.. When he gets what he wants from someone, he discards them. He discarded me, and clients, I tell you he was cold and did it like I didn’t matter at all.
I think my ex therapist is a bad quality man. He is a willing servant to specific women so he can come across as supportive until you cross him. He’s only good to the women who can fire him or divorce him. Basically it’s a power play and if he thinks he can’t overpower a woman then he’ll act respectful. I think guys like him are misogynistic losers posing as feminists. It’s very disheartening, but I believe one day he will get a just punishment for hurting me and his other clients.
I understand why people have looked at me strangely when I’ve been somewhat protective of him. He emotionally abused me. I don’t need to defend him at all. He spends his life looking after himself and has little remorse for anyone who he hurts along the way.
He is a bad person in my experience and I do hate him. He is the therapist equivalent of a bad dead end ex. Yuck.
I do not want him back. He doesn’t care if I die or if any of his clients die as long as he has enough clients left to make a living. His family enables him and they are not my problem to solve. I’ve already separated myself from my problematic family members, I don’t need some faker to use his family and sex partners to threaten me for telling people how he broke his written contract with me and failed his ethical professional responsibility. Enablers are easy to find, I don’t need his awful ones in my life.
I’m finally letting what people are telling me sink in, and it is empowering. He is not a good person because his actions show that he isn’t. Like most addict boyfriends, it would’ve been better if I had left him right away, but out of all my therapists he’s the worst so I shouldn’t be hard on myself. I usually choose good ones.
This situation shook me. It made me worry that I still let my tendency to see potential in crap men overuse my best interests, but bad quality people are easy to find. I’m bound to meet up with a few.
I’m happy with what I accomplished in my therapy. I get to carry that with me. He’s just the booster rockets that you don’t need for very long.
I do not wish good on him. That’s not my job. I hope one day he has to feel all of the pain he’s caused me, and I hope someone stops him before he harms more clients. Like one of my good therapists told me though, that’s not my problem.
I don’t wish horrible things on him, just that he will feel my pain one day. However the universe wants to teach him that lesson is up to her.
I’m a much better client than he will ever be as a counselor.
I think of him as a bad learning experience.
I’m still amazing.
He’s just a write off.